Rachel Kramer Bussel

"By the time I’ve mixed a half cup of wet dog food with a half cup of dry dog food and thrown my..."

Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:17:05 -0400

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By the time I’ve mixed a half cup of wet dog food with a half cup of dry dog food and thrown my children’s dirty clothing in the hamper, I’m good and slick. It’s only when my husband grabs his keys from the bowl by the front door, gives me a perfunctory peck on the cheek, and asks me if I can pick up his Lipitor prescription that my honeypot starts melting for real.

I don’t know what it is about the ho-hum procession of daily errands and deeply ingrained domestic habits, but something about the way my husband and I go on autopilot for weeks at a time without ever being truly conscious of each other gets me soaking wet.

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- Nothing Gets Me Wetter Than A Monotonous Domestic Routine
(via cajunboy)

Casey Malone Is The Brute Squad: This Is Not Fucking Harmless

Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:15:18 -0400

Casey Malone Is The Brute Squad: This Is Not Fucking Harmless:

caseymalone:

I love Kickstarter. I think that’s clear to people who know me by now? I love it. There’s a dude named Brad Muir and he works at Double Fine and I love the games they make, so much. But before Kickstarter, every time a Double Fine game came out I was a little worried it would be their last,…

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Wed, 19 Jun 2013 20:34:55 -0400

unabridgedchick: Image: “Reading makes immigrants of us all. It...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:41:19 -0400

unabridgedchick:

Image: “Reading makes immigrants of us all. It takes us away from home, but more important, it finds homes for us everywhere.” — Jean Rhys

Library was closed so I detoured to North End Avenue and came...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:41:13 -0400

Library was closed so I detoured to North End Avenue and came across this.

BE BOLD: SUPPORT TEATRO VISTA TODAY!

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 22:17:02 -0400

BE BOLD: SUPPORT TEATRO VISTA TODAY!:

theheavylifting:

I’ve never asked anyone to donate to an indiegogo campaign before. I’m asking folks to consider to donate to this.

Without Teatro Vista, the world premiere production of The Elaborate Entrance of Chad Deity would not have been possible. My newest play (currently titled Rebecca Oaxaca Lays Down a Bunt, though that’s going to change) simply would not exist. TV means a whole hell of a lot to me.

That’s totally not why I’m asking you to consider donating. I’m asking because TV is a remarkable community of some of the most amazing actors I know, and they just so happen to be Latin@. It’s a beautiful company, and they could not deserve your love (financial and otherwise) more.

Help TEATRO VISTA, your premier Equity Latino theater company, put on a stellar inaugural season at our new home, Victory Gardens!

funkybrownchick: “What’s the difference between a good sex...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 16:35:45 -0400

funkybrownchick:

“What’s the difference between a good sex scene and a gratuitous one in films?” (Article: Making Love in the Movies - Room for Debate - NYTimes.com)

I want your 1,200 word or less BDSM erotica by this Thursday!

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 16:33:04 -0400

Heads up, writers!

If you’ve already submitted to this anthology, I will reply to you by September 2013 at the latest. Thank you!

Short Short BDSM Submission Erotica Anthology (title TBA)
Editor: Rachel Kramer Bussel
Publisher: Cleis Press
Deadline: June 20, 2013 (earlier submissions strongly preferred and encouraged)

Please make sure to read and follow these guidelines in order for your work to be considered. Editor Rachel Kramer Bussel is looking for short short stories of 1,200 words or less focused on the theme of BDSM from a submissive perspective. While the word count is short, I want complex stories with a beginning, middle and end, not simply scene snippets. Preference will be given to stories that stand out in theme, tone, plot, language, characters, motivation and erotic action. I will consider stories from a dominant’s perspective if that is the best way to tell the story. The final book of 69 stories will contain an extremely wide variety of characters, POVs (I welcome first, second and third person stories), settings, scenarios, motivations, experience levels, motivations, BDSM practices (which can be combined with other sexual acts), fetishes, couplings, relationships, etc. All genders and sexual orientations welcome. All characters must be over 18; no nonconsensual activity, scat, incest or bestiality. No poetry. Original, unpublished stories only. Stories from authors I have not published before are especially welcome. See my books Please, Sir; Yes, Sir; Please, Ma’am and Yes, Ma’am to get a feel for the types of submissive stories I enjoy. See Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex for examples of 1,200 word or less erotic stories.

How to submit: Send double spaced Times or Times New Roman 12 point black font Word document (.doc or .docx) with pages numbered OR RTF of 1,200 words MAXIMUM to shortsubmissionantho at gmail.com. DO NOT submit multiple versions of your story; submit ONLY your final, complete, edited version of the story. Note that this is a hard maximum. Stories that are not in keeping with the theme of the anthology or are over 1,200 words will not be considered. Indent the first line of each paragraph half an inch and double space (regular double spacing, do not add extra lines between paragraphs or do any other irregular spacing). US grammar (double quotation marks around dialogue, etc.) required. I will consider a maximum of TWO stories per author. Include your legal name (and pseudonym if applicable), mailing address. If you are using a pseudonym, please provide your real name and pseudonym and make it clear which one you’d like to be credited as. You will receive a confirmation within 72 hours. I will get back to you by September 2013.

Payment: $20 and 1 copy of the book on publication in 2014

Deadline: June 20, 2013 (earlier submissions strongly encouraged and preferred)

"Two activities made the prohibition list. First, all business affairs would be tabled. Call me..."

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 16:18:04 -0400

“Two activities made the prohibition list. First, all business affairs would be tabled. Call me self-employed, call me an artist, call me Supreme Allied Commander of My Multi-Hyphenate Life; they all translate to “working all the time.” I would not live that way during this vacation. Second, for 25 days I would avoid all “social media,” including the original online social network: email. I would not read, write, or be notified of any electronic missive. I would not generate any activity whatsoever on any social network whatsoever, including, but not limited to, seeing, reading, downloading, syncing, sending, submitting, posting, pinning, sharing, uploading, updating, commenting, tagging, rating, liking, loving, upvoting, starring, favoriting, bookmarking, plus-oneing, or re-anythinging.”

- Baratunde Thurston, “#Unplug: Baratunde Thurston Left The Internet for 25 Days, and You Should Too,” Fast Company

"The human heart is my territory. I write about love because it’s the most important thing in the..."

Sat, 15 Jun 2013 10:59:03 -0400

“The human heart is my territory. I write about love because it’s the most important thing in the world. I write about sex because often it feels like the most important thing in the world.”

- Jeanette Winterson, Gut Symmetries (via queerbetweenthelines)

Daily gratitude: home

Sat, 15 Jun 2013 09:38:51 -0400

I love that it’s 9:34 a.m. and I’m digging in to my anthology reading (July 1 deadlines, I need lots more stories!) and poetry judging with a fresh pot of coffee. I think I did such a good job of convincing myself that “home” meant “place to sleep and throw my belongings on the floor” that I didn’t realize how good it feels to have a table and coffeepot and working SodaStream and TV. The more I’m here, the more I realize what I kept from myself all those pathetic Brooklyn years. Not everything about them was pathetic, certainly, and what i lacked in a home I fulfilled in other ways. I had a glorious city to keep me busy. Now I keep myself busy. It’s different, and this way feels more adult, and isn’t burdened with the twins guilt and fear that accompanied me 24/7 as an active hoarder.

This home keeps me grounded, and means when I travel I’m not doing so to escape something I hate (not just myself) but because I truly want to. Have to wait for my master, aka, my royalty check, to see if I can afford any of the trips I want to take, but I am hoping it works out. After taking my travel writing class I realized that what I need is to travel for fun, simply to explore. I drag the rest of my life into my writing way too much already.

Assumptions much, American Greetings?

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 15:49:46 -0400

Assumptions much, American Greetings?

stylelikeu: Our first Closet for Sex & Gender month: Cindy...

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 14:29:17 -0400

stylelikeu:

Our first Closet for Sex & Gender month: Cindy Gallop #sexualhealing

“Decide what you want the future to be and make it happen.”

Feminist Frequency: Twitter vs Female Protagonists in Video Games

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 15:56:15 -0400

Feminist Frequency: Twitter vs Female Protagonists in Video Games:

femfreq:

Thanks #XboxOne #E3 press conference for revealing to us exactly zero games featuring a female protagonist for the next generation.

— Feminist Frequency (@femfreq)

June 10, 2013

Above is a tweet I made this afternoon in reaction to the fact that none of the games presented at…

Slate interviewed me about editing the sex diaries

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 13:05:24 -0400

Slate interviewed me about editing the sex diaries:

For the past six years, New York Magazine has published a weekly sex diary, written by a new anonymous contributor each week, documenting all the hopeful first dates, ill-fated hookups, Craigslist scrolling sessions, and failed masturbation attempts one can experience in a seven-day period. (Check out this 2009 feature for…

Thanks, Amanda Hess!

I didn’t realize how large this book was, thought it was...

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 12:52:03 -0400

I didn’t realize how large this book was, thought it was small paperback size. On first glance, format reminds me of zines.

So glad I kept this. Trip down memory lane, cause I’m...

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 12:27:48 -0400

So glad I kept this. Trip down memory lane, cause I’m pretty sure I’d barely published anything besides book reviews and NYU newspaper op eds that now make me cringe, when I bought this. The poetry is gorgeous, especially “The Science of Kissing.” I feel very lucky I left that path I was on in 1996/7/8 and found a better, if much more challenging one. Good reminder during these ultra broke days/weeks/months. People like Elena were nice to me when I was sortof lost and wandering and trying to find myself. I remember this one conference where I was looking at her, Lauren Sanders and Cheryl B. They all seemed SO COOL and glamorous and I felt nothing like that. Not sure I do now but I’m way more at peace with myself, good and bad. Maybe those lost years were necessary to lead me on that very meandering trajectory to right now.

I'm talking Best Sex Writing 2013 live tonight on Sex City at 11 pm EST

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 09:57:00 -0400

I’ll be talking about Best Sex Writing 2013 tonight on Sex City live at 11 pm EST. I’ll even be reading a little bit of my essay “Baby Talk.” And Jon Pressick wrote about Tim Tebow in “Holy Fuck” - sports are not my forte but one thing I’m very proud of with this edition of Best Sex Writing is its timeliness. We’ve got sex toy company JimmyJane, porn in condoms, Tebow, along with male bisexuality, masochism and a host of other topics. Click on the title below to read more about the book, or visit the virtual book tour which just wrapped up, and this interview with me at Clitical about sex culture and erotica. You can also win a copy of Best Sex Writing 2013 from Clitical!

Tonight on Sex City, Louise reaches Rachel Kramer Bussel, the editor of Best Sex Writing 2013. (Cleis Press). In this latest annual nonfiction anthology, Rachel has collected a range of the year’s most challenging, detailed non-ficton essays, examining many aspects of sexuality. While autobiographical in many cases, her commentators bring in historical, political, economic considerations, with the carnal. Topics include dynamics of s/m culture, polyamoury, orientations, while striking to find Sex City’s own Jon Pressick’s article, exploring virginity in a sports figure.

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Tuesday April 11, 2013, 11pm to Midnight, 89.5 FM (Toronto) Host: Louise Bak

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mrgif: Happy bday Maurice Sendak

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 21:26:37 -0400

mrgif:

Happy bday Maurice Sendak

Daily gratitude

Mon, 10 Jun 2013 21:06:18 -0400

I did not have to go outside on this rainy day, have the whole week at home, just got interviewed by a website I read daily, am plugging away at my erotic romance anthology and one of the essays I’m working on is sorting itself out (with a little help from Dinty W. Moore’s Crafting The Personal Essay). And yesterday on the UWS I ran into someone I haven’t seen since probably 1996, who I used to play chess with. One of those very random but smile-inducing NYC moments.