I highly, highly recommend Violet Blue’s new Total Flirt app. Screen grab mine. Yes, I know Violet, am friends with her and have worked with her, but I would have bought this anyway (and did buy it, fyi). I think if you are at all socially challenged, it gives you a way to start a conversation and assess how one is going. My official review (dear App Store - please approve it - I keep hitting “submit” and it is “loading” forever, and I’ve never reviewed an app before so, um…yeah, please approve it or tell me how to fix it!) is below. Click here for The Total Flirt website.
My review of The Total Flirt app:
This is a very practical app that gives quick, concrete information you can eyeball on an actual night out to gain both confidence and real-world advice on everything from approaching someone in a group setting to flirting without words to closing the deal. It’s nor a rehash of the book (which I also recommend) but instead leads you through actual icebreakers with lines to get the conversation started and ways to gauge what the other person is really thinking.
Violet Blue breaks down what can be very awkward for many of us into small actions you can take that can get you to the next level. I also liked that you can use these skills even if you’re just looking to flirt for the sake of flirting and not being the person hovering all night at the drinks table. She tells you how to handle interference, get into “flirt mode,” size a person up and decide if they’re worth it, and much more.
I consider myself a pretty social person but I tend to freeze up in exactly some of the scenarios Blue guides you through here. While the app is geared toward single men and women (some advice is geared toward one gender but most applies to anyone), even if you’re not looking to “close the deal” you can learn how to start and stay in conversations and become comfortable with flirting rather than fearing it or relying on, say, alcohol or outrageousness.
Easy to navigate, clean, simple design. You’re able to go back one or more steps and each action is broken down so you can easily slip away for a moment, peruse the app and get back into flirt mode. Highly recommended for both shy people and those who just want a social boost at parties, bars, etc.