I’m so honored to know and read so many smart, thoughtful parents who teach me tons that hopefully I’ll be able to apply to my own parenting someday. Rebecca Woolf, Girl’s Gone Child, “On Compliments and Other Controversies:”
I remember wanting people to treat me like a woman because suddenly my body was doing womanly things. Not because I wanted “boobs” like some pop-culture starlet but because, all of a sudden, I HAD THEM!
Pop culture will not kill the Engineer or Author or Professor of Women’s Studies in your child. Complimenting little girls on their clothes isn’t the gateway drug to implants. A girl can love both books and magazines, documentaries and rom-coms. A competent and confident woman can rock a miniskirt as well as ace the MCATS. The key words here are confidence and self-respect and a girl can only have both if she acknowledges her body AS WELL as her mind.