I had a boyfriend who wouldn’t act dominating or violent with me in bed like I wanted. His whole thing was just trying to make me cum and that was how he got off. I don’t know, I see it as very selfish and about male ego/pride but less honest than when men dominated me directly. Someone wrote about how men see female orgasms as trophies rather than pleasurable experiences to share with a partner. They laugh and mock women with their male friends that they made cum, like mockingly imitate how they sounded during. For this reason I find it humiliating to cum with a male partner, unless I trust and like him a lot.
— Marie Calloway, Six Question Sex Interview at The Nervous Breakdown