I’m honored to be speaking at the Portland Public Library in Portland, Maine on September 24 from 7-9 pm about erotica as part of Banned Books Week, along with Nomia owner Gina Rourke. If you know anyone interetsed in books and erotica in the area, please let them know. I also teach my erotica writing workshop September 23 7:30-9 pm at Nomia, which you can register for by calling Nomia at 207-773-4774. $25/person and more information on Facebook.
There’s sexiness in not trying to be sexy. Sexy for J. Crew is something more natural, not when everything is firing on all cylinders. There has to be something that’s a bit undone. You can’t have perfect hair, and clothes, and makeup—you need an element of imperfection to make you feel like there’s a person behind it all.
This is the reality of sexism. This is what sucks about our culture. Living with daily sexual harassment on my fifteen minute walk to work eroded my sense of security and impacted every decision I made: don’t wear makeup, don’t wear knee boots even over jeans, don’t wear a skirt or a dress, don’t have your cellphone out but keep in at least one ear-bud so that you have an excuse to ignore comments, always hold your keys, glance behind you every few seconds, learn which blocks are safe and which aren’t, don’t go out after dark, take the BART but stay toward the center of the platform where there are the most people, don’t my eye-contact, don’t make eye-contact, don’t ever make eye-contact and maybe this will protect you but probably not. With this constant self-policing I forgot who I was, too busy trying not to be noticed.
It is with great pleasure that I get to bring to the Lurid Listeners, Rachel Kramer Bussel’s very first erotica publication titled , Monica and Me. Rachel is no stranger to The Kiss Me Quick’s erotica podcast with her first story Doing the Dishes narrated over year ago. I do hope you enjoy…
In all seriousness, The Big Book of Submission is a book I would host even if I’d not had the pleasure of being included. Rachel Kramer Bussel is one of those editors with the golden touch: she has an unapproachable ability to select not just great stories, but a variety, too, even within a theme, so that no one leaves the pages unsatisfied. To be a part of that mixture is a little like winning an erotica writer prize: I’M IN A RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL COLLECTION.
The visual impact of stockings is erotic and forceful. When I was a child I was so fascinated by the images of stockings in old lingerie ads that I painted them onto my Barbie dolls. I’ve been doing stocking peels onstage since I was in high school, going to Rocky Horror and portraying a…