Anonymous said: Do you know any good books about BDSM but where the female is the dom? I'm starting to think they don't exist...
Honestly, I don’t read it much myself, but Rowdy likes (well, owns? I assume likes) She’s on Top, which is an anthology of female-dominant erotica.
You might also want to check out Circlet Press, which publishes fantasy/sci-fi BDSM erotica in just about every gender configuration.
Cleis Press also has lots and lots of BDSM books, and books like Under Her Thumb and Yes, Ma’am might be up your alley. (Oy, those covers. But you know what they say.)
There’s sexiness in not trying to be sexy. Sexy for J. Crew is something more natural, not when everything is firing on all cylinders. There has to be something that’s a bit undone. You can’t have perfect hair, and clothes, and makeup—you need an element of imperfection to make you feel like there’s a person behind it all.