If we’re committed to comfort at any cost, as soon as we come up against the...– Pema Chödrön, Awakening Loving-Kindness. Love you, Shambhala pocket editions and indie bookstore Bunch of Grapes. I’m one of those people who associates where I get a book, and when and why, with what I get out of it. I read some of The Taste of Salt on the beach today with the taste of salt water...
Time Traveling in the Steampunk Subway
cleispress: This incredible subway station under Paris has undergone a full Steampunk conversion, thanks to the mind of François Schuiten, a comic book artist from Belgium. Each tiny circular window lining the edges is a portal to another world. This is all influenced by Les Cités Obscures, where humans live on the counter-Earth. -Stuck in Customs Looks like a lovely place to engage in...
Daily gratitude: the nice off duty taxi driver
What a day. Tons of work left. Panic to the extreme looking for a taxi but a very nice off duty driver picked me up. Found my credit card after I’d canceled it. My subconscious or whatever made me do that is smarter than me because that bought me some time on some automatic debits. I keep getting these warnings that this way of living is wrong and unsustainable and I’m not quite sure how or who to...
Longshot!: and the Issue Two theme is... →
longshotmag: The moment has arrived. Here’s how this works: Starting right now, you have 24 hours to produce and submit your work. We’ll take the next 24 to select, edit, design and lay everything out. The end result will be a beautiful glossy paper magazine. And a super sharp digital edition. And this…
When life gives you lemons…take crazy photos. To be revealed next week. Basically in the name of artwork I made myself look like a fool at the post office.
Here’s what I’m trying to say: I’m so grateful you believed in something more. I...– Tama Kieves, “It Takes Courage To Want More,” Crazy Sexy Life (from a letter to herself)
I have now managed to make the tally of missing items: one new sneaker, book with important items like money orders and my bank card. No Dramamine for me, apparently. So strange because of all the things I lose my credit card isn’t one of them. I’ll get through this weekend buy would much prefer to be at home taking care of my life. It’s sending lots if distress signals I feel...
Daily gratitude: fashion edition
Found purple Malia Mills bathing suit I’ve worn once. Not in the mood/body to be wearing a bathing suit but at least don’t have to say I couldn’t find it. Yes I’m editing Curvy Girls while trying to drop at least 20 pounds and get healthy. More on that vexing/interesting/surprising book another time. Even better, found a dress, new unworn bra and favorite ass-enhancing...
I think my high school math classes would’ve been more effective if they’d taught practical things that I’m dealing with now, like: you have 3 bills and only enough money to pay one. Which should you pay first, and should you go into overdraft to pay any? Tough choices.
Daily gratitude: Stella Nails
Nail salon offered me kettle corn - that’s dedication! They are always so nice to me and tell me I should carry fewer bags, which from most people annoys me but them I don’t mind and their 10-minute chair massages rock. Stella Nails, 1st Avenue between 12th and 13th. $7 manicure, $13 or $14 pedicure (not sure which). I highly recommend them! This week has felt interminable and yet...
What people leave with us feels, initially, like a liability. We don’t want it....– More wisdom from “What Kind of Webstalker are You?”, Melissa Febos, The Nervous Breakdown
New survey results on the sexiness of Harry Potter– Subject line in my inbox. Ashamed to say I actually clicked.
The people whose profiles I regularly visit is prodding some wound, fingering a...– “What Kind of Webstalker are You?”, Melissa Febos, The Nervous Breakdown - for the record, I’m an obsessive one. Trying to wean myself off overuse of the internet generally, and especially that.
My book & I are in the Observer this week →
squeela: “Okay, this is important,” said Ms. McClear as we walked up Eighth Avenue. She pointed at the ribbed building to our right. “The New York Times building. One of the lots on that site was the Playground…so there’s a peepshow somewhere under there.” Back then, The Times was at its old 43rd street location. “I would wonder how many, many fucking Times people came to see a show,” Ms....
It’s very possible next year I will need an intern. Don’t email me now, but a heads up. It’d be paid but I’d need someone familiar with the world of sex-positive writing and whip smart. How much do I wish I had that person RIGHT NOW?? Sooooo much. But no time. Maybe that’s the secret: don’t think, just do.
Free cupcakes today in New Orleans! →
I wish finding my bathing suit when I get home tonight were the biggest thing on my plate. Pretty overwhelming week. Definitely not what expected from the drugs. At least if my career blows up in smoke I can still meet this weight goal. Bright side? Ha.
3.5 miles on the treadmill. My Nook and comfy new shorts and inspiration to meet this goal. Faster is better but I’m trying to be patient.
Mid-way through my iced chai, I learned that my date authors a sex and dating...– “The Dangers of Dating While Freelancing,” Jessica Leigh
Want to read: Tango: My Childhood, Backwards and... →
From Amazon, was about to order but not out til August: Recently hailed as “the greatest cabaret artist of [V’s] generation” in The New Yorker, Mx. Justin Vivian Bond makes a brilliant literary debut with this staggeringly candid and hilarious novella-length memoir. With a recent diagnosis of attention deficit disorder, and news that his first lover from childhood has been...
"Amy Winehouse: Reflections from Two Drug Policy... →
From Alternet: People usually hear about overdose when it happens to a celebrity like Heath Ledger or Chris Farley. Yet overdose is a silent killer that has quickly become one of the leading causes of accidental death in the United States. Nationally, in 2007 (the most recent data available) over 27,000 people died from accidental overdoses. In NY and 16 other states, overdose is now the...
Have you ever not been able to tell if you’re happy or sad? Or you’re both, in the extreme, at the same time? Welcome to my life! Trying to focus on the happy and productive, mostly successful.
Access to Birth Control Act introduced by... →
WASHINGTON, DC – Following the release of an Institute of Medicine (IOM) report recommending that birth control be made available without copays because of its importance for women’s preventive health care, U.S. Senator Frank R. Lautenberg (D-NJ) and Representative Carolyn Maloney (D-NY) introduced legislation to protect a woman’s fundamental right of access to legal contraception. Lautenberg’s...
I forget how much I’m always expecting the worst news. Always. If either of my parents call me at what seems like a weird time I think something’s happened to my grandparents. Just got call from landlord and was sure they were evicting me but they just had a question. Whoa. Good thing I’m going to the beach this weekend, even if that involves commentary on my looks and...
my funny life
For something that’ll be revealed shortly, I have to take a photo of myself (or have one taken of me) with a Hitachi Magic Wand. Should I hold it like I’m singing into it? Or brandishing it in the air? Think I’ll wear my new leopard print dress. Artwork=fun challenge!
I think I'm gonna need to go to Minneapolis to see... →
Happy to see my amazing, exuberant, talented friend Courtney MacLean get some press love from City Pages. And this: Also, I have a solo show of new stories and songs coming up in late September at the Bryant-Lake Bowl called Courtney McLean is (not as) OBSESSED WITH SEX (as one might think).
CLEiS PRESS: The Lazy Gourmet Pleases Another Lazy... →
Firstly, my awesome publisher Cleis Press is on Tumblr. Follow them! Secondly, they also publish Viva Editions which do things like The Lazy Gourmet which makes even truly lazy in the kitchen types like me want to cook! cleispress: “Now if you asked me a few months ago, I would have said “There is NO room for laziness in GOURMET cooking.” Which is why, I DON’T DO IT. But… . . then I found...
I’m reading Small Town Sinners, which is about, in part, what we’re taught is “right” and what we know to be right. And…I guess what I really want to say is that when I was little I thought doing the right thing always came with a reward, beyond just doing the right or healthy or smart thing. A reward like candy or praise. But actually sometimes doing the right thing, which can be the hardest...
I’m blown away by how gorgeous Incoqnito’s products are. Seriously beautiful. And there’s jewelry! This links through to an interview at Babeland, where you can buy these truly elegant, gorgeous sex toys. I’m lusting after them bigtime. First, for everyone who doesn’t know, what’s the idea behind these toys? What makes them different? Incoqnito is a collection...